Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Women have the power

incident dated 15 March 2011

Time 9:25 am

Today I was traveling to my office in a bus. A guy tried to touch me in a WRONG way! I kicked him to the ground. Hit him hard on the nose and have left marks of my nails on his face and back good enough to bleed. (Thanks to my long nails).. The guy would think twice before doing anything now on. He anyways did not disclose his name and profile but I don't care much I have played my role.

Anyways no one came to my help but I don't care I know how to tackle such incidents and people because I am brave enough and am a fighter.

Guys think they can get away with such things and they are actually proved right at many instances. But now is the time to prove them wrong.

This for all the girls - never feel weak, you have power within. Durga and Kali should be your role models when it comes  to such incidents. Depending on men or anyone else for this matter is not advisable. Act wise, after all its your life and you have to protect yourself.

Monday, September 5, 2011

Unquestioned traditions

Last evening as I was waiting for the bus I was articulating my next post which was supposed to be "Why shouldn't we ape the West". My thought process was clear and the post was on my mind just the way I wanted it to be. I was done for yesterday (1 post/day is enough I think) so I had decided to write it today. But something happened this morning and I have changed my subject. 

Before I start writing on my subject I want to say that I love wearing saree from time immemorial and I have been to many temples, some mosques, churchs, gurudwaras and deresars.

Yesterday I told my mother that I went to a Ganesha temple to have Prasad and she told me "I have heard that it is compulsory to wear saree or salwar suit in temples in south." This was quite surprising to me as I had not experienced this. This morning I came to know that for going inside some temples in kerela guys had to remove their shirts and girls have to be in saree or salwar suit. 

Now I do not want to be a rebel but I do not wear either of them on any given normal day and yes I am not going to visit any of such place on any given normal day as well. And of course I do not want to be a rebel but there is definitely something which I do not understand. Looking back I can see that :

1. No one is born in clothes.
2. Ancient humans did not have clothes.
3. Clothes came with evolution and the same goes with there designs.
4. In olden times women wore tube tops and sarong of today with a different names and this can be depicted from old sculptures.

I am sure many will be against my thoughts from here on. But if I get a perfectly right answer for my question I will agree against my own thoughts. 

If you believe in God then I suppose you believe that He is omnipresent and He is looking at you all the time- when you are dressed and when you are not. So what exactly are we trying to show by dress coding in temples ? IF you say that it is for maintaining respect then from whom? From fellow beings or God? If its about fellow beings then they are same as you are and if ir is God then we must know its him who created us (if you believe). 

In the end all want to say that I will go to a place at my will and I have written this because I felt like writing. If you agree I would like to know about it and if you disagree I would LOVE to hear from you.

Cheers to beautiful life.

Girls and nights

I have always wondered that who was the first one to come up with the following concepts:

  • Girls should not go out alone at night.
  • Girls should not go out at late night.
  • Girls should not be seen with any guy at night.

... perhaps the list will go on and on ...

If I use my common sense then the first thought coming to my mind is that something bad happened and thus this was declared for safety of women. But if that was the case , was the solution right? That really was not the best solution for sure. If there was a culprit or a group of them, they should have been punished to death. If it was about an affair then it should have been taken as a fair thing because God created attractions. IF it was about infidelity, again there should have been some huge punishment. But how fair was it to make a rule for women and punishing them for what they have not done??

I know majority of people believe that a girl going out late is not a good sign. May be there are few who do not mind this but here we are talking about majority. Our society is an expert in tagging people for their acts and it is always up to the receptor to accept that tag or not. Even if a girl might not accept the tag she is forced to confront it in some way or the other by someone close or someone remotely related. 

What happened in past (or may be what did not happen) cannot be changed. But there is something we can change today. We can change the way we look at things. We can stop tagging people and we can learn to live our life for ourselves instead of poking our nose into others life. 

It is your life and if you have to think what will your neighbour think if you do certain thing then you are slave of your mentality. Set your self free and spread the message to set others free too.

We made rules which were not required to control things which were not in our hands leading to situations about which we have no idea. We need to retrospect.